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OK, so the end of July has come and gone and the ‘ex’ has cancelled coming up to move his stuff from my apartment.

I feel like he’s trying to mess with my head yet again.  He said that I should go down to Hampshire (UK) to visit him and catch up.  I know that I couldn’t possibly do that right now because I wouldn’t trust myself.  I know that all those feelings that I had for him will come rushing back and I won’t know what to do with myself then.

I’m used to breaking up with people and having a clean break with no more text messages or chat (for a while at least).  This hasn’t happened this time and I have told him that I thought that it would be best not to chat for a while.  As usual he hasn’t taken any notice of what I want or need. 

Now he’s talking about coming back to the area and getting his own place again.  I’m just waiting for the call to ask me to keep all of his belongings until he gets his own place.  Everywhere I turn at the moment I’m reminded of him and the times that we shared together.  It’s really tough and I’m getting really frustrated with him now.   It’s five months since we ended the relationship and he can’t be bothered to get his stuff!

I’ve spoken to friends and they tell me to get rid of his belongings myself by putting them in the rubbish for collection or giving them to a charity shop.  It’s just not me; I can’t do that to someone that I care about.  So what is the etiquette on break-ups?  How long do you keep things for an ex?  Do I just get a removal company to take his belongings down to him?  Any advice would be welcome, I need all the help I can get at the moment, lol.

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